21 Tough Questions & Straight Answers

Below are responses I gave to various questions while working with an online chat ministry three years ago. Over the course of a year, I had multiple conversations with different people all over the world on the internet. I hope what's below can help someone who needs a response to a question. I did not come up with all of what you will read. I am thankful for other ministers and authors who have helped me. If you will like to talk more about a topic, comment below.

1. What is the Call of God?

In the bible, God's calling usually means a call to salvation or a specific call to use someone to speak on his behalf.You may be asking to know if what you are doing (or what you desire to do) is God's plan for you? God has given each person gifts and abilities to be used for his glory. We don't have to fight between choosing to do ministry as we think of it today and doing something we enjoy and have the God-given skills to do. Each of us, in seeking God in a loving relationship on a daily basis will know how God has made us and in which direction he is stirring us to serve him in the world.

2. Prayers

  I want you to know the greatest joy in life is to know God in a relationship. And it is available through what Jesus Christ did for us on the cross. When we believe in him, God gives us His Spirit so we may grow in this relationship with him. When we believe and trust in Jesus, we receive forgiveness and life now and forever.

 Heavenly Father, I know that I am not perfect and have done wrong against you. But I know through your Son Jesus, I can have a relationship with you and enjoy your presence. I know he died on the cross for my sins to bring me to you. I believe and I receive your Spirit into my life now. In Jesus name, Amen.

3. Creation/Evolution Dialogue

 My personal view is understanding that the bible is not a textbook; especially not the ones we have in our modern world. The creation story is a story given to a people to explain to them the power of an eternal God who created everything. There is one huge point throughout the entire bible, that God is an all-powerful God, and there is nothing he cannot do. I really don't know how old the earth is, to be honest with you. Those who believe it to be 6,000 years old are counting based on what they read in Scripture, and like I said, the creation story I believe is saying God created the world, and that God is powerful. The Bible is not giving the littlest details like how we are interested in today. But the message to us is God owns the world and works within it.

4. Why Do Bad Things Happen?

Good question. Bad things really happen to all people. Evil things happen because this world is broken. BUT God is working to fix it. He began to fix this broken world through Jesus who was the best person who ever lived but died for this world to be fixed, and also for us to be fixed.

5. Why Marriage?

It is not a piece of paper that makes a marriage. That is an important part of it. But what makes a marriage is making a commitment to God before your family, friends, and a minister to love despite the circumstances. Whatever type of relationship you are in now, you could get up and leave without anyone holding you accountable. Marriage is a commitment made to God before family and friends with a minister to recognize that covenant to your spouse and God. It is sacred and we have to hold it with high honor.

6. Is God Real?

Yes, God is real and he desires you to be in a relationship with him. We cannot see God because he is Spirit. But when we trust in him, he works in our lives to build up the little faith we had to trust him at first. After that, we will see him working around us and in us.

7. Why Do I Need to Have Faith?

Faith isn't devoid of reason. Those are honest concerns you have because you are not alone. There have been many people who have lived before you and I and have had those same concerns about not seeing but having to believe. I can tell you from different views how I believe what I believe. Historically, there is no doubt that Jesus lived, and that the New Testament is the best witness to his life. For me personally, my life has been changed by God. When I received Christ, I believe God's Spirit came into my life and did a wonderful work. 

There is a small division between reason and faith, but I want you to know at the least that you are not alone. Thomas, one of the disciples of Jesus who saw him and lived with him, even doubted him from the moment he met him, but at the end, God had to change his life and perspective before he realized that Jesus was the truth. If you seek to understand, pray to God and ask for understanding. You are right, faith is important. But do not neglect or reject it. It should be reasonable that to find faith, you need to ask the God who gives faith.

8. The Trinity?

We believe God is one and is in three persons. Logically, it might not make sense but that is how God has revealed himself to us. Jesus tells us in Matthew 28:19 to baptize people in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Because God is so big, we have to understand that we cannot understand all that he is. His ways and thoughts are higher than ours. It is how he has revealed himself to us in his word.

9. Lord's Supper?

I do think it is spiritual and symbolic at the same time. But for it to be literal, I think the purpose would be lost. Jesus wants us to be mindful in our heart and mind of what our sin cost him at the same time and the Spirit that he provides for dying for us. I am more dependent upon the purpose than I am the actual wafer and juice. The Supper is a reminder of the sacrifice that unites the community to God and to one another as followers of Christ.

10. How Do I Grow In Relationship with God?

There is no formula or code just simply living in relationship with God like we live in relationship with someone else. God is a person so it means that we talk to him (prayer), we listen to him (silence, reading his word, and thinking about it), and that we tell others about him (loving, serving, and worshiping him).

11. What If I Have Doubts?

Doubts are real things, and we experience it from time to time. I want you to know God is able to help all of us through those tough times when we find it hard to believe. We often overcome doubts by repeating truths about God to ourselves. We have to be reminded that God cares about us, God loves us, God created the world, and God has not abandoned the world. Basically that God is good. There are many truths in the bible that can help us overcome our doubts and grow our faith and relationship with Jesus.

12. What Do I Do About My Fears and Anxieties?

I want you to know that you are not alone if you are experiencing fear and anxiety. They are real things that overwhelm us. Most times, our fear and anxiety are because we have looked too much at our problems more than we have looked to God. God is bigger than this world we live in, even more than we can imagine. If our eyes and our love are focused on him, we can trust him to lead us through any challenge.

13. How Do We Know Jesus is Real?

Jesus once walked on this earth and he said many things about himself that we can test. When we believe in his words in the bible, we have the opportunity to experience the things he talked about.

14. How Do We Hear Jesus' Voice?

That is a good question. We have to learn to know his voice through spending time with him in Scripture and thinking about what we read. When we know what he has said in Scripture, his Spirit reminds us of his words in situations. That is how we can know that it is Jesus speaking and not anything else because it agrees with what he has said in the Bible.

15. Is It Bad to Cuss/Swear?

Jesus lets us know that out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. That means whatever comes out of our mouths indicates what is in our heart. If we are saying harmful words towards others or ourselves, that means we have wicked thoughts in our hearts. Colossians 3:8 tells us to rid filthy language from our lips. And Ephesians 4:25 tells us to keep off false speaking and speak truthfully.

16. What is Faith?

To have faith in God is to trust God. We have faith in many things in life. We go to sleep having faith in waking up. We make many decisions having faith the best outcome will come. Faith is not knowing all the details yet believing for the best. In the bible, Hebrews 11:1, faith is described as being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.

17. What is Love?

Love is acting through deep affection and care for someone else. 1 Corinthians 13 describes it.

18. Free Will/Predestination?

Regardless of God knowing the future, we still have choices in the moment. God wishes no one should perish, that is why he is relentless in sending his Son to the earth that all will believe in him. We have to know certainly that God is going all out for everyone to believe in him and nor perish. We know that everyone has the opportunity through different ways to believe in him or not. (Romans 1:20)

19. How Does a Christian Live?

It is not a list of things to do, but a surrendering to the Spirit that God gives which helps us make decisions in life with love, wisdom, and understanding. We love him with our life by the decisions we make because we are doing it to please him. That is why it is important for believers to read and think about the words of God in the bible. God's Spirit transforms our minds and hearts through the word and helps us live rightly.

20. Any Advice For Life?

I think in those discouraging moments of life the biggest encouragement to me was looking back and seeing how God had been faithful to me before. Also, realizing how he has gifted me and shaped me. What we are doing in the moment is always an indicator of what we will be doing in the future. We make the future in the present as God is our help and sustains us.

21. Is Pre-Marital Sex Bad?

Sex is such a sacred a wonderful thing that it should be preserved between a man and a woman. That they should enjoy each other’s love in a way which includes the physical, yet also the union of souls, commitment, and affection. Premarital sex is a sin because it is treating sex as something ordinary to have between as many people as possible, when it is rather a love to be celebrated over a lifetime between two people. Sex is not just a physical thing, but is a spiritual and emotional union that is why we believe it should be between a husband and a wife as long as they both live.

MORE QUESTIONS AND RESPONSES...

Other Popular Questions I Received and Quick Responses:

Does God care about me?

o   Yes God cares about you so much that he wants to give you life and be your joy and strength in every situation you are in. He knows you well.

     I have sinned so much that I don’t think God can/will forgive me. Will he?

o   God will forgive you. His grace is greater than the guilt you carry. His love is deep for you and will cover all your sins as you look to Jesus.

     Why does God allow/make bad things happen?

o   The world is a broken place and bad things happen. But God is working to restore and heal his people. He is not done with you but has a plan.

     How can I get closer to God?

o   We get closer to God by living the spiritual life in praying, reading & thinking about God’s words, & then living life with other believers.

     How can I tell what God wants me to do/whether he is answering my prayers?

o   God’s will is always for us to have full joy in him no matter what. He answers prayers in 3 ways, yes, no, or not now. Walk with him always.

     How can I be saved? 

o   Say to God “I need you”, & believe Jesus Christ died on the cross for your sins. Ask for God’s Spirit to come into your heart & make you new.

     Why do I need Jesus?

o   Jesus is the constant peace and joy no matter what happens in life.

K.D.

False gods, False promises

I remember when I was sixteen years old I couldn’t wait for the day that I would have my own car. I had dreams of getting a car, putting some shiny wheels on it and some bass in the trunk to shake the windows of my neighbors when I pulled up. I had saved up my entire summer pay from working at Six Flags Over Texas as a Costume Character to get my first car.

My story of buying my first car is a little different from other people’s story of buying their first car. Most people have a story of going to a car lot with their parents to look at cars or going to someone’s house to look at the car with their parents and maybe taking it to the mechanic to check it out and all that stuff. BUT not me.

I had worked about fifty to sixty hours a week at Six Flags, and every time I got a check I put it into my bank account towards my car purchase. I couldn’t wait to buy my first car. Towards the end of the summer, I thought I had enough saved up to get a car so I approached my dad.

By the time I knew I had enough to buy a car, my mind was locked into buying a car. BUT my dad told me to wait and he said to keep working to save money. In my mind, I thought I had enough and that it was the right time.

Here is how it played out.

One day when my dad was at work, I decided to go buy a car by myself. I know what you’re thinking, is that even possible for a sixteen-year-old? And I would say it’s not only possible, it happened! One of my dad’s friends came to the house and asked if I was still looking for a car. I said I was and asked him if he would take me to the car auction close to the house. He took me there since it was less than two miles away. We were in the lane looking at all the cars pass by and there was a car that my dad’s friend said no one was bidding on but was a good car.

It was a black 2001 Toyota Corolla and he asked me if I wanted it. I was tired of waiting to get a car and thought I had finally arrived at the moment to get my own car. I told him I wanted to buy it. Well, I bought my first car. After the auction, we went to get the car to look at it more and to take it home. Let me tell you, there were so many things wrong with the car!

All the door handles inside and outside were broken. The signal lights were shattered. The exhaust was busted in so many places underneath the car. It didn’t have a radio inside or mats on the floor. The tint was peeling inside and the paint was fading on the outside. There were holes in the ceiling and holes in the seats.

This was a junky car.

I tell that story because the truth is in our lives when we feel it is taking long for God to accomplish his plan for us, we feel the need to take matters into our own hands which leads us to getting junk into our life.

When God says “wait I have something planned for your life that you’re not going to believe,” we get tired of waiting and take matters into our own hands, and what we get is junk in our life. Just like how I couldn’t wait to save up more and go with my father to get a decent car, we feel like we can’t wait on our heavenly Father to go with us into the life that he has promised for each one of us.

Waiting on God is important. And I want to show you why it is important to live daily in God’s presence where we can wait on him to provide for us all that we need in life instead of trying to do things ourselves and only end up getting junk in our life.

In Exodus 33:1-6, God is having a conversation with Moses about distancing himself from the Israelites because they chose junk, they chose sin, instead of choosing him.

Here is what it says:

The LORD said to Moses, “Depart; go up from here, you and the people whom you have brought up out of the land of Egypt, to the land of which I swore to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, saying, ‘To your offspring I will give it.’ I will send an angel before you, and I will drive out the Canaanites, the Amorites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites. Go up to a land flowing with milk and honey; but I will not go up among you, lest I consume you on the way, for you are a stiff-necked people.”

When the people heard this disastrous word, they mourned, and no one put on his ornaments. For the LORD had said to Moses, “Say to the people of Israel, ‘You are a stiff-necked people; if for a single moment I should go up among you, I would consume you. So now take off your ornaments, that I may know what to do with you.’” Therefore the people of Israel stripped themselves of their ornaments, from Mount Horeb onward.

The problem in the story is that sinfulness caused a broken fellowship with God. When the Israelites sinned, they broke intimate fellowship with God. Just like when I chose to disobey my father, I broke fellowship with him. The Israelites were tired of waiting on God, and sinned, breaking fellowship with God.

You can see in the story that the people of God, the Israelites, had sinned towards God and God in return told them he couldn’t travel among them anymore.

But what exactly did they do?

In chapter 32 of Exodus, there is a story you may know. It is the story of the golden calf. The Israelites were in the area of Mount Sinai for ten months waiting for God to take them into the promised land. They had to be at Mount Sinai because that was where God was speaking to Moses, telling him to write down all the laws that were going to guard the Israelites as they moved forward. They had already been waiting for ten months but then Moses their fierce leader goes up on the mountain for forty whole days. Moses was their leader and he was gone for forty days. So it felt like to the Israelites that maybe Moses gave up on them and went on vacation or just abandoned them. But that was not true.

The people grow impatient and they rallied around Aaron, the half-brother of Moses, and begged him to make them a god that will go before them. Aaron gives in, and tells them to bring all of the gold ornaments and rings of all the people. He receives it, melts it, and makes it into a golden calf. Then he said ‘these are the gods, Israel, that brought you out of Egypt.’ They made an altar to it and made offerings to it. God who is everywhere, sees it, and tells Moses what is going on. He tells Moses to go down to them and says he is going to destroy all of them because they had chosen junk instead of him.

However, Moses prays on behalf of the people and God relents from destroying them. Moses then goes down with his aide Joshua, and this is how bad it is... Moses already knows what they are doing because God told him but when he approached the camp, he is surprised and is filled with anger to the point that he throws the tablets of the commandments on the ground. He threw it on the ground!

Moses then takes the calf and destroys it and separates those who are on God’s side from those who are not on God’s side. Moses returns to God to try to make things right. God sends a plague upon the people and says he will send an angel to go before them. That is how we get to chapter 33.

Now in chapter 33 God tells the Israelites that he will not go with them because of their sin. You can find that in verse 3. They chose junk over God so God could not have intimate fellowship with them. It is like how oil and water cannot mix together. God is a holy and righteous God and he cannot have intimate fellowship with his children who are saying to him, “we don’t need you!” The sin of the Israelites broke intimate fellowship with God that he could not travel among them. Instead he was going to send an angel to go in front of them.

Now you may be thinking what does this have to do with me?

The truth is our own sin breaks intimate fellowship with God to the point where we cannot offer him true worship and know his daily intimate presence.

Now, I want to make sure we understand some differences. As children of God, believers in Christ Jesus, we can break out of fellowship but not out of relationship. We are saved by God through Jesus Christ and are sealed by the Spirit of God believing this by grace through faith. And as long as we acknowledge Jesus is the Son of God and that it is by his power alone that saved us, we will have that relationship.

BUT, we can break out of fellowship with God.

Here is what I mean: When I was about six or seven years old, I was a sickly child which means I routinely went to the hospital to receive vaccinations and check-ups of that sorts. I remember a time when my mom asked the doctor to come to our house to give me a shot. My mom knew how much I hated shots so she called my older brothers and some other men who lived in the houses by us to come over. I was in the room sitting down and all of a sudden I see 5 men approaching me, and one in a lab coat. I tried to run but they grabbed me and pinned me down. My mom is in a corner saying “be gentle, please.” I’m crying and trying to shake myself out of the grips of the men but I can’t. The doctor gets the needle out of his case and I receive shots all over my body. After he was done, I cried and cried. Everyone left the room and I cried in the same position I had been while receiving the shots. Then I had this satanic idea. I was mad at my mom not understanding she was actually doing what was best for me. I was so mad I went to her room to see how I could repay her for my sorrows. The first thing I saw in the room was her brand new bible. I jumped on the table and without thinking any longer, I began to tear out pages in her bible. She comes in to check on me because she realized I stopped crying, then she saw what I was doing.

Why that story? When my mom came into that room and saw what I was doing, she was deeply disappointed in me. She maybe even thought I was possessed. Here is the point: When I sinned against my mom that day I broke intimate fellowship with her, BUT the truth is, she was, and still is my mother. We can lose intimate fellowship with God just like we can lose intimate fellowship with our parents but the relationship is still there if we are believers.

You may say “Well, I don’t build any golden calf idols or rip my parent’s bible.”

The truth is, we have more idols today than ever before. We have many idols (junk) that we put into our life as believers that breaks intimate fellowship with God. We can make idols out of our country, career/jobs, money, sex, power, success, control, or comforts where we love those things more than we love God. And all of those are surface level idols which means there is something even deeper in our hearts that is the breeding ground for those idols.

The biggest idol in our part of the world right now is comfort.

We come to believe the easier and satisfying something is then the better it is. But that is still choosing junk. Here is how Tim Keller, a pastor in New York describes idols.

          Anything more important to you than God.

          Anything that absorbs your heart and imagination more than God.

          Anything you seek to give you what only God can give.

Anything you look at and say “If I have that then I’ll feel my life has meaning; then I’ll know I have value; then I’ll feel significant and secure.”

Anything that becomes more fundamental than God to your happiness, meaning in life, and identity.

We have to realize that because God is a holy God, he can’t have intimate fellowship with us when we choose idols. In the story of Exodus 33, his holiness and glory would have destroyed them since they had been worshiping idols.

BUT there is always good news with the God we serve. What’s the good news?

The good news is God is a gracious God who restores his intimate presence when we confess.

Look at verse 5 and 6 again of Exodus 33.

For the LORD had said to Moses, “Say to the people of Israel, ‘You are a stiff-necked people; if for a single moment I should go up among you, I would consume you. So now take off your ornaments, that I may know what to do with you.’” Therefore the people of Israel stripped themselves of their ornaments, from Mount Horeb onward.

Here is what happened… The people mourned and God tells them to take off their ornaments.

The Israelites mourned when in hearing the words of Moses because they knew they needed God to go with them. Then they removed their ornaments which were probably the same type of gold items they had used to build themselves an idol. Which means taking off the ornaments was a sign or symbol of remorse that the people acknowledged their sin.

They chose to give up what they used to sin against the Lord. They chose to give up anything that had to do with their idol worship from that moment onward.

But what does mourning or taking off ornaments have to do with us?

It means God can and will restore his intimate presence and fellowship with us when we confess that we chose junk over him. Just like how the Israelites mourned and took off their ornaments, we need to acknowledge our sin realizing it keeps us from worshipping God out of a pure heart. We also need to acknowledge that we desperately need God.

It’s like the story of the prodigal son who goes off to the far country to spend all of his acquired wealth. He couldn’t wait to receive his share of the property, and chooses to go spend it instead of staying in his father’s presence. He spends everything, and longed even to be fed junky pig food. But when he comes to his senses, he realizes his sin and decides to return to his Father.

God is a gracious God who always has open arms for his children. His grace displaces our disgrace in order to receive us home.

So what do we do with all of that?

We have to seek God to know him better in a deeper relationship.

Look at verses 12-14 of chapter 33 really quick.

Moses said to the Lord, “See, you say to me, ‘Bring up this people,’ but you have not let me know whom you will send with me. Yet you have said, ‘I know you by name, and you have also found favor in my sight.’ Now therefore, if I have found favor in your sight, please show me now your ways, that I may know you in order to find favor in your sight. Consider too that this nation is your people.” And he said, “My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”

Moses wasn’t the one that sinned but he realized along with the people that they needed God to go with them and not an angel to go before them. Moses knows that God’s grace and favor is seen in his going with them personally and intimately. If God goes with them, then all is well.

So there are two things that God promises him and these are two things we can ask God each day so that we will not choose junk over him.

Two things.

These are two things taken from verse 14 we can ask God for every day to have intimate fellowship with him and not go after any idols.

1) Ask God to show you his ways so that you may know him better.

When it comes down to it, the Christian life is knowing God intimately to act like him in every situation that we’re presented in life. God has his way of handling money, power, and success, and if we don’t know how he handles life’s challenges through his word we will always handle it like we want to and how the world does.

The second thing Moses didn’t ask for but God knows that he needs it in addition to going with them, and we can ask for this in prayer every day.

2) Ask God to give you rest.

Back to my opening story, if I would have rested in my dad’s word and waited to save more money and go with him, I wouldn’t have brought home a junky car. We need to ask God to give us rest so we can be satisfied in knowing him. Also that we can be satisfied in where he has us, where we work, the school that we are in, the family that we have, and the friends we have. Let’s ask God for these two things in prayer this week. Let’s pray saying “God, show us your ways so we can know you better, and God give us rest.”

It is a certain truth that sin breaks intimate fellowship with God, but God is a gracious God who will restore that fellowship when we confess, now it is up to you to ask God in prayer to show you his ways and give you rest so that you may not choose junk into your life.

That day when my dad came home he saw the car and asked whose it was. I said it was mine. That put a dent in our fellowship for a while because he wanted us to go look for a car together and buy the best one we could afford. I had used all the money to buy the car and now there was nothing left to fix what was wrong with it. The car sat in our driveway without any shiny wheels (it never got shiny wheels) or speakers in the trunk (it never got any beats) until I was ready to go to my dad and say that I made a mistake.

Let’s not choose junk over our heavenly father. False gods deliver false promises.